There is no doubt that being in love is the best feeling there is in life. We have all lived, one or more times, this experience, and inevitably, when we remember those times, we sigh and miss them.
When we are in love, everything is transformed around us, everything seems beautiful to us, and life becomes something wonderful. The colors of our cheeks change, our hearts race, we feel and look wonderful and we are able to face the whole world for that love.
We start a relationship, it continues many times and, later on, we seriously couple, we get married, we have children. Some problems are coming, which we are solving together. And suddenly, we find that poetry no longer exists. It all boils down to paying the bills for the household economy, sharing some activities more out of habit than out of real desire, and the questions begin.
We remember the time when we were in love, and it does not seem true that, that person is the same one who sleeps with us every day. What happened along the way? Did it change our lives? Where was the love that seemed capable of moving the world?
For my part, I confess that I am not a Don Juan and even less a psychologist of love, but the truth is that the secret of getting along as a couple is to tolerate each other, and over time the differences become similarities, and when those differences are ironed out, the couple is no longer two, but one.
In the couple, the effort must be collective, not of the man alone or of the woman alone, but of both. It is worth clarifying that relationships are not born just because, but we create them ourselves, and they are the result of a conscious effort.
That is why maintaining love requires awareness of what the other person needs to be happy, and sincerity with ourselves about what we feel and are willing to give to the other.
Often, after establishing a relationship that gratifies us, we devote our efforts to other spheres of our lives, and we abandon it, giving it as something already achieved. We thus forget that the relationship is a process, something that is permanently changing, and that, therefore, it is necessary to continue putting energy into it, also permanently.
Becoming aware that the course of the relationship depends on us, and that we can shape our own destiny makes us feel strong to face life with its daily vicissitudes, makes us optimistic and hopeful to live every day of our existence in love with the person we choose to share until the last day of our life.
It is worth concluding with what the great British musician John Lennon expressed, when he said: I have experienced everything, and I can assure you that there is nothing better than being in the arms of the person you love.
By: José Miguel Ávila Pérez/Translated by Radio Angulo
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