There’s no doubt that being in love is the best feeling a couple can experience. We’ve all lived through it, once or more. Inevitably, when we remember those times, we sigh and miss them.
When we’re in love, everything around us transforms. Everything seems beautiful, and life becomes wonderful. Our cheeks flush, our hearts race, we feel and look amazing. We’re capable of facing the whole world for that love.
We begin a relationship, it continues many times, and later we get serious. So we get married, we have children. Some problems arise, which we solve together. And suddenly, we find that the poetry is gone. It all boils down to paying the household bills. Sharing a few activities more out of habit than genuine desire, and then the questions begin.
We remember the time when we were in love. It doesn’t seem real that that person is the same one who sleeps next to us every night. What happened along the way? Did we change? Did life change us? Where did the love go that seemed capable of moving mountains?
For my part, I confess that I’m not Don Juan. Much less a love psychologist, but the truth is that the secret to getting along well in a relationship is mutual tolerance. Over time, differences become similarities, and as those differences are smoothed out. The couple is no longer two people, but one.
In a relationship, the effort must be collective, not just the man’s or the woman’s, but both’s. It’s worth clarifying that relationships don’t just happen; we create them ourselves. They are the result of a conscious and joint effort. That’s why maintaining love requires awareness of what the other person needs to be happy. Honesty with ourselves about what we feel and are willing to give to the other.
Often, after establishing a fulfilling relationship, we dedicate our efforts to other areas of our lives, neglecting it and taking it for granted. We forget that a relationship is a process. Something constantly evolving, and therefore, it’s necessary to continue investing energy in it, also continuously.
Realizing that the course of the relationship depends on us, and that we can shape our own destiny. It makes us feel strong enough to face life’s daily challenges. It makes us optimistic and hopeful. Allowing us to live each day of our lives in love with the person we’ve chosen to share it with until our last day.
That’s why, I think, it’s necessary to make every month like February and every day like the 14th. So we can always be in love.
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