Perhaps one day you’ll realize that life didn’t demand so much from you—so much stress, so much sacrifice, so much tiredness—maybe it just asked you to be happy.
And to be happy, there’s nothing better than stability in relationships, where love, respect, and caring for and sharing with the person you want by your side should prevail above all else.
Today, while searching for information for the surprising news section “Desde la red” (From the Internet) for the program Estamos Tan Cerca (We Are So Close) on Radio Angulo. I came across information related to the intelligent man and how he prefers more stable relationships.
A study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences suggests that men with higher general intelligence not only tend to be more committed. But also to build more stable relationships, with fewer conflicts and greater emotional investment.
The research, led by Gavin S. Vance, analyzed how intelligence influences behavior within relationships and found that men with greater cognitive ability are less likely to act hostilely and more likely to strengthen the emotional bond.
According to the study, these men avoid negative behaviors and instead tend to communicate better. Have more self-control, and show a greater willingness to resolve conflicts.
This type of intelligence—known as general intelligence or “g factor”—is also associated with better working memory, reasoning ability, and the ability to anticipate the consequences of their actions.
These cognitive abilities allow them to better manage disagreements, understand their partner’s perspective, and make more thoughtful decisions. Which translates into more satisfying and lasting relationships.
Furthermore, the study highlights that intelligent men prioritize strategies of mutual care and respect over controlling dynamics. Also which strengthens commitment and long-term stability.
Although intelligence, according to science, is inherited from mothers, it is wise to be stable in order to achieve the goals that you, as a man, set for yourself in life.
It’s sad to come into this world and not have taken advantage of all the opportunities society has given us through school to train us as workers, technicians, or professionals.
Intelligence is one of the most important mental traits studied in psychology. It has been shown that having a high IQ (an indicator of intelligence) is linked to a greater likelihood of enjoying a long life, with access to well-paying jobs, and good health.
Now, what is the link between intelligence and love? Several studies have set out to explore this fascinating relationship. Today we’ll look at one that, in particular, focuses on how the smartest men approach marriage.
It makes sense that intelligence is something that allows us to adapt well to our environment. Since by definition, this trait is the ability to find solutions to new problems. The opposite of solving a situation by resorting to routine actions memorized through habit is intelligence.
However, it’s also true that there is a certain ambiguity underlying this well-known concept. What, exactly, are the mental abilities at work in a specific situation to achieve a goal? Is the intelligence at work when solving a mental calculation the same as that involved in understanding a philosophy text? The answer: intelligence is a set of mental processes, and at any given moment, some become much more important than others.
Now, what does it mean to be intelligent in romantic relationships? In this case, we must keep in mind that gender roles still have a significant influence on how most people behave in their relationships and marriages.
Therefore, it is worth differentiating by sex. In this case, we will focus on what happens to men, their marriages, and their IQ levels through research conducted by a team of Finnish psychologists led by Jaakko Aspara.
Economics or emotionality?
It has long been known that more intelligent men are more likely to get married. However, this does not mean that intelligence is an element that improves the emotional bond that unites these men with their partners. It could also be the result of a parallel effect of having a high IQ: higher income levels.
Ultimately, if a man is eligible for better jobs because he’s smarter, he’ll also have a greater ability to contribute resources to starting a family (especially when, due to inequality, many women can’t contribute as much money to their shared life).
Thus, the researchers led by Aspara wanted to see if it was a greater ability to emotionally manage relationships. Rather than family finances, that explains this greater success in marriage.
Furthermore, they wanted to see what kind of mental sub-skills encompassed within the concept of intelligence make these men more successful in life with their partners. To conduct the study, Aspara took advantage of the vast amount of data collected by the Finnish government: income, marital status, and IQ data for all men living in the country (the latter data derived from the tests men take during compulsory military service).
The Results
As expected, more intelligent men tended to be more likely to get married and to remain married four years later. This effect persisted even when the influence of income was ruled out. In fact, although economic status was more important in predicting the likelihood of getting married, intelligence was more important in predicting the duration of marriages.
And which mental skills were most important for the health of marriages? To find out, the researchers switched from considering IQ as a measure of general intelligence to scores on the separate test sections that measure these specific abilities: logical, numerical, and verbal reasoning. Verbal skills were clearly the ones that best explained the likelihood of having long marriages.
The Importance of Communication in a Relationship
One explanation for this is that verbal skills allow for better communication in relationships in general and in marriage. This would be very illuminating, as it would mean that many conflicts in relationships are, in fact, a matter of communication errors. Of course, being more fluent in language also makes seduction much easier, which makes the start of a stable relationship more likely.
Ultimately, if more intelligent men are better husbands, it seems to be not only because of their ease with words, but because of their ability to connect with their partners, conveying their perspective on life events and their interests.
References:
Aspara, J., Wittkowski, K., & Luo, X. (2018). Types of intelligence predict likelihood of getting married and staying married: Large-scale empirical evidence for evolutionary theory.
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